Attraction
Most girls can describe their perfect guys as if they were items on a diner menu. “Yes, I’d like a cheeseburger, medium well, no onions, please. And on the side, I’ll take a guy about six feet tall with dark brown hair, really white teeth, and a not annoying laugh. No mullets.” Guys are no different. Ask any guy whether he prefers a Selena Gomez type to a Valerie Lukyanova (If i’m not mistaken), and he’ll be able to give you a very detailed description of his dream babe. So, I’ll admit it, I have an ideal too. He’d be a tall, James Younghusband type with dark brown eyes, black hair and a great smile. Have I gone out with guys who actually look like this? Not really. Because the minute I get to know someone, my “type” flies out the window. Looks don’t matter nearly as much as the stuff beneath the surface. For me, first and foremost, a guy’s got to be intelligent—someone who can hold his own in a conversation that’s not about wrestling (UFC) lol or the latest mall gossip. Independence is another priority. No matter how much I dig a guy with good orthodontia and an awesome car, I wouldn’t want a guy to agree with everything I say just because. If he has his own opinions, goals, and dreams, he’s going to be attractive, regardless of whether or not he hates Dr.Bieber. And he’s going to want the same thing in his significant other. Those are the qualities I strive for. Do I want to please a guy I’m interested in? Sure. By making time in my schedule for him, laughing at his jokes, quizzing him before the SATs. But asking me to change my thoughts is out of line. In other words, for guys or girls, I think the ideal match is someone who will take you as is.
